A couple of Christian elements are so fundamental that to ignore them is to become a living oxymoron. One such element (a “curse word” to many) is commitment, which has become a lost art.This can be seen in high job turnover rates, short attention spans, and the skyrocketing divorce rates. I deeply believe that there is a inverse relationship between commitment and convenience. Hopefully someday we’ll talk about this relationship/trend.


Most people are familiar with the concept of a Side chick. For those who have been living under a rock, a side chick is a snarky reference to a secret lover, or a mistress who has relations with a man while he is involved in another relationship. The highlight of such a relationship is that there are benefits but there’s no commitment. Sounds familiar? it looks a lot like cultural christianity, like we want the benefits of Christianity without the commitment; we make Jesus our side chick.
But how are we doing that you ask? 🤔


We treat him like a secret lover. We don’t give testimonies about how God’s working in our lives. We don’t talk about him at all. People would actually be shocked we know Jesus.
There is No Commitment – We don’t expect plans to change.we have priorities that are above God (another relationship) because we’re more secure in that other relationship, instead of Him.
We don’t ask about where the relationship is going – we’re at the same point (relationship wise) with God as we’ve always been, because progressing means sacrificing more of ourselves to God
I really like this side chick analogy because ironically In the Bible, God often described His relationship with His people as a marriage. He was the husband and His people were His bride. A good marriage is one that consists of submission, sacrifice, and stability just as Jesus fulfills in our relationship with Him
God isn’t a genie who grants wishes only when they’re needed and then relaxes in the lamp for the rest of his life. He is a powerful God who wants to be involved in the smallest details of life. As with all relationships, God requires commitment, repentance from sins, and intimacy with His followers.He will never accept being considered an afterthought.


There is a God we want, and there is a God who is. They are not the same God. He’s not like our nice grandfathers who spoil us and let us have our way, pamper us and lets us do our own thing.
Paul encourages us to “Examine yourselves, to see whether you are in the faith.” If we wish to live the entire life that Jesus promised, we must first ask ourselves some critical questions. One of the questions we should start asking ourselves is are we cultural Christians. A cultural christian is someone who professes to be a Christian yet lives in a way that contradicts their words. These are persons who, for various reasons, want the benefits of christianity without the commitment.


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